CHRISTINE GORDON | CONTRIBUTOR Who was the first woman you knew in an abusive relationship? Maybe she was your college roommate or your older sister. Maybe your office mate spoke in hushed tones to the screaming voice coming out of her phone. Whoever it was, chances are you felt a mix of compassion and confusion as you watched. Victims of domestic violence often stay in damaging, dangerous marriages even as those who care for them beg them to leave. They stay for lots of reasons including the confusing power dynamics of abuse, a belief that leaving goes against their faith, and a lack of safe places to go. Some don’t recognize the marriage as abusive. Others think it’s their fault.  Obviously, these women are the kind of people Jesus referred to when he named “the least of these” (Matt 25:40). They are the vulnerable, the voiceless, those without an advocate. And according to the 2022 PCA Report on Domestic Abuse, they’ve been deserted. Page 2496 reads, “All types of abuse create a forced separation in the marriage, just like physical abuse. And therefore all types of abuse qualify as a form of desertion.”[1] One of the ways we, the women of the church, can help is by holding these sisters’ hands as they go to their brothers to get help....